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“millions of people live in the anguish of not being able to make ends meet, others are aware that they are trapped the mechanisms of self-sabotage of which, however, they do not know how to free themselves; some do not realize that they are closing the door in the face of wealth and console themselves by repeating to themselves that money is not what matters in life anyway. Still others are convinced that economic prosperity is simply something they are not meant for.”
This is the preface to one of Claudia Rainville’s books.
Today we talk about abundance and how we limit it!
How about you? What do you believe about abundance?
When we talk about abundance, we mean a sense of prosperity that can pervade every area of our lives.
We refer not only to money, but to prosperity in relationships, in a sense of personal fulfillment, in the ability to pursue our goals, and in welcoming abundance and wealth into our lives.
It is important to remember that society, which is made up of each of us, has taught us that abundance is not accessible to all, but is reserved for the few.
This has generated many misconceptions about the concept of abundance, creating a sense of exclusion for many.
You may think you are earning well in your working life but lacking in the area of relationships or fulfilling your true self. These beliefs prevent us from getting in touch with abundance and letting it get in touch with us.
There are multiple layers that separate us from abundance: collective beliefs, social beliefs, family beliefs and our personal experience.
And even when we “have permission to access” abundance, it is often a limited permission, only in certain areas of life or on a certain plane of existence.
We begin to explore the concept of give and take because it is the first step toward a healthy exchange system.
As I tell in the video/article on asthma, this concept of functional exchange is also fundamental when we consider conditions such as asthma, where there is a vital exchange of oxygen with the outside world.
Looking at the concept of abundance in 360 degrees, we can see that where there is a flow between giving and receiving, abundance can circulate freely.
Conversely, when this balance is missing or there is a blockage in either side of the exchange, abundance struggles to enter or reach us.
From personal experience, and that shared with many people, I have noticed that it is often easier to give than to receive.
But why? What motivates us to give continuously?
There may be intentions of which we are not fully aware that lie beneath this movement toward always giving.
For example, there may be a desire to feel generous or emotionally enriched when we give to others feeling superior, better or triggering dependence, having power over others or need to maintain a role of sacrifice or victimization.
It is important to ask whether this giving is genuine or whether it hides other intentions, such as
Thus, when we reflect on giving and receiving, we need to consider not only the act itself, but also (and more importantly) the deep-seated motivations that drive us to act in one way rather than another.
Always being in the position of the giver also allows us to be addictive. Think about it: we can make our children, our partner or our colleagues dependent at work when we try to do more to prove our worth and keep our place.
Giving gives us control of the situation and can make us feel superior, allowing us to keep people close to us.
Interestingly, those who give a lot may also have a controlling nature. Giving can become a way to exert control over others and feel superior.
Why is it so difficult to receive?
Our ego may be against the idea of putting ourselves in a position of humility to receive. Asking for or receiving something could make us feel vulnerable and challenge our self-esteem and ability to be autonomous.
Sometimes we avoid asking for help because we are afraid of remaining indebted to those who have helped us, or because we fear rejection or lack of support from others.
Perhaps we tell ourselves that no one will help us or listen to us, and so we feel we have to do it ourselves. These phrases resonate in some way within us or among people we know.
Sometimes, we close ourselves off from the possibility of receiving because we fear that we are undeserving.
Fear of asking may stem from a feeling of not wanting to depend on others or a fear that our requests will not be met according to our expectations. We do not want to feel indebted, incapable or rejected, so we avoid asking for or accepting help.
It is difficult to accept that we need others because this may challenge our autonomy.
However, it is important to remember that autonomy does not mean doing everything yourself.
We often grow up with the idea of not bothering others and having to fend for ourselves, but this can lead to a distorted view of autonomy.
Actually, autonomy is about being able to recognize when we need help and to ask for support when needed. It is an act of humility and self-care, not weakness.
Recognizing one’s worth does not depend on external success or academic qualifications, but on the ability to listen to one’s heart and accept who we really are.
Giving and receiving are part of an important balance in life.
Closing ourselves off from the possibility of receiving can limit our personal growth and interrupt the natural flow of abundance. It is essential to learn to receive gratefully and ask for help when needed, without letting our egos get in the way.
How many times in counseling do you say to me, “I have the feeling that I have to compensate for my fear of not being worth enough with an abundant collection of titles and labels.”
and then working together the discovery
“I found myself believing that my identity was defined by these distinctions, unable to imagine a life outside of them. But then, when I made the decision to change my life and abandon these titles, I discovered that my true identity does not need labels to exist. Now I am more open to living in the world without the nagging of a title.”
Recognizing one’s worth is crucial because we often believe we deserve abundance only if we earn it, if we sweat and sacrifice.
I have noticed that many people associate their value with the amount of effort and sacrifice they offer.
However, this equation is not correct. Personal value should not be conditioned by the amount of effort we put in, but simply by the fact that we exist.
Living to prove one’s worth to others is a titanic undertaking, as others will always judge us by their own personal parameters and filters. Acknowledging one’s worth means freeing oneself from these external expectations and embracing who we really are, without labels or titles.
How do you get there? There are many ways, Metamedicine offers the tool of Emotional Memory Release, I also really like to work on the ego. These are two complementary jobs that I combine in my practice with clients.
While the first, emotional memory release, is about freeing the inner child from limiting beliefs, the second is about the egoic part that claims “I am not enough” or “I am worth more.”
How many times have we found ourselves uttering phrases like “I don’t ask anything of anyone because I will prove that I can do it on my own”? These statements reflect the belief that one must prove one’s worth to others through commitment and constant effort.
Remember:
Living without labels is possible and liberating.
It means embracing your authenticity and accepting yourself for who you are, beyond any external definition.
Freeing the authentic self from the shackles of labels and expectations is an act of courage and inner freedom.
